Saturday, September 17, 2016

What we can not have

Why do people always want what they can't have? Is it just human nature? What's so appealing to what is out of reach to us? 

I guess it goes back as far as when Eve eats fruit from the FORBIDDEN tree. When something is hard to get (or forbidden) we suddenly pay more attention to it, which must be why that apple looked so enticing. 

It never seems to fail, when someone sees you happy, they are suddenly more attracted to you, even if they never were before. People come out of the wood works, exes return saying "I'm sorry, I messed up, etc." I have been single for the better part of 5 years mostly by choice (after I got my heart broken and thought it could never be put back together). I honestly thought I would never love someone the same way I loved him again.  Time and space helped me see that it is possible to care again. I've always noticed what seems out of reach is what we, as humans, seem to always want.  

I have recently met a great guy, we are just getting to know each other and what the future holds is still yet to be seen,but he brings the biggest smile to my face everyday. I've also "heard" that he hasn't smiled as much as he has in the last three weeks since we "met". 

Earlier this week we talked about this very same thing! Is it happiness that makes us suddenly more attractive or is it being taken that makes us desirable to someone others? Our minds place value on things without us even realizing, and there are forces at work, which determine the value of a certain thing (or a certain someone). says: "We tend to more so desire those who are desired by others. The same is true of objects and things."

Thursday, September 1, 2016

In Gods Timing

Do you ever wish you had a Do Over? Or an easy button?
 There have been moments I’ve wished I’d done things differently or not at all,  but given the chance would I actually go back and change things? Probably not! All the heartaches, broken bones, mistakes, fights with friends, tears cried, and stands I’ve taken all got me right where I am today and I wouldn’t change that for anything.  Don’t get me wrong, bad times are just that, Bad, but didn’t they have a huge part in getting where you are right this moment?  I’m not talking “ When life hands you lemons make lemonade”

by all means when times are hard: get mad, cry, scream, hit something, ultimately you are a better person for it.  “What doesn’t kill you makes you Stronger” (yes I know I use cheesy cliches a lot….get used to it ;)  

I  could sit here all day and give you examples of bad things in my life, lord knows we would be here a few days...but instead I want to tell you that I think life is what you make it. I saw something the other day that made me laugh, partly because it’s how I want to be :) 

Sometimes you have a feeling, only you truly know what is right for you and sometimes you just have to worry about you and not what others think you need or tell you to do.  You have got to do what makes you happy, everyone else looks out for themselves and you should to.  Sometimes I get so caught up in helping and doing for others that I totally forget to take care of me, but when is it my turn?  Who will look out for me if I won’t look out for myself?

I am single, have been on and off since I was in a serious relationship that ended 4 years ago. I can’t quite seem to find someone that is right for me, but I know that he is out there. I helped raise his three children and I was so in love with all of them.  When we broke up it honestly broke my heart. Not only was I walking away from him but I was walking away from the three kids I had been such a huge part of their lives for three years, and I honestly wasn’t sure I’d recover from that.  I was told by someone that even if someone is right for you, if the timing isn’t right then it won’t be right. I truly believe there is validity to that.  You have to be in the right place in your life at the same time for something to work out the way it should. I am not perfect nor am I the most religious person, but I believe in God and I believe that he has a plan for all of us, mine just hasn’t been revealed yet.  I’ve also been told if the door doesn’t open, then it wasn’t your door!

“You don’t understand what I’m doing now, but someday you will.”  ~John 13:7

“When the time is right, I, the Lord will make it happen.” ~Isaiah 60:22

I have always been a pretty independent person, but in these past 4 years I have gotten quite used to doing my own thing (when and what I want to). I always joke with my dad that the ONLY thing I need a man for is to help me with car stuff. When it comes to taking care of car maintenance I am clueless.  In all honesty I would LOVE to meet the right guy and settle down with him and raise a family, but I will not rush it.  I know that when the time is right it will happen.

 I have tried online dating and OH MY WORD, I think one of my blog posts should be about what NOT to do to pick up girls on Dating Sites, I have met some very very very interesting people to say the least.  I’m telling you I could write a whole book on the guys I’ve met from the dating sites.  The one I dated for the longest that I had met on a dating site literally made me so stressed out that I got a stomach ulcer and couldn’t keep down food for a good 2-3 months.  I would so much rather be alone than to be with someone that makes me that miserable.  Young girls take it from me, no man is worth all that stress. You can do bad by yourself you don’t need someone else bringing you down.  I WILL find a guy that will treat me the way I deserve to be treated and I will make him very happy. Until then it will be me and my two sweet baby hedgehogs, call me the Crazy Hedgehog Lady if you must ;)

Until next time
XOXO, Brittany

"You won't make yourself a name if you follow the rules" ~Lauren Alaina